The inevitable wives thread

[Aart Brouwer]

Let me kick off by saying that my wife likes my wargaming exploits; she even saves and buys stuff for me and suggests useful details or additions to the scenery I make. 

Recently she came along when I went to visit a new wargaming pal. We had a great evening between the three of us. It helps that my pal likes women just as I do. When we entered his home I introduced her to him saying 'This is ---. She is a woman, as you may have spotted. Now women aren't that different from us wargamers, except ...' at which he erupted in homeric laughter because he immediately got the point: not only do most women detest wargaming, but most wargamers aren't - how shall I put this - the most capable womanisers.

Those of you who are lucky enough to share my particular marital circumstance will realise that such women are a God-sent. Nuff said. I don't want to hear from you. I want to hear from the others.  Bring me your huddled, your hen-pecked, your game-hungry masses. Let's hear some horror stories about tabletop arms and the women, guys.

You know who you are. 

Cheers,
Aart

[Fenton]

No worries at this end...My wife lets me buy whatever wargaming stuff I want as long as she can buy all the clay and metal clay and beads etc that she wants

all is happy here

[nikharwood]

It's all (vaguely, relatively...) harmonious here: she's got horses, I've got toy soldiers 

I just wish she wouldn't keep telling people when they call, "Oh, he's out in the garage - playing with his men"

I'm as metrosexual as Becks, but really...!

[Aart Brouwer]

My wife lets me buy [snip]

She lets you buy... Hmm, there's a whiff of impending tragedy there, dear Fenton. I hope it's not too late for you to draw some boundaries and establish who does the letting and who does the buying.

I don't want to come over all macho on this issue, but when it comes to our wargaming rights we have lost quite some ground since the 19th century, fellows. Humanism, pacifism, feminism, PC and Tommy Hilfiger have all made deep inroads. I wonder if lead and tin are going to be declared environmental hazards next, just to spite (or tax) us.

On the other hand I just love a good sob story. "Wargamer relegated to 3' x 4' attic, denied food for weeks". "Enraged wife smashes unique Napoléon miniature". "Scots Regiment found in dustbin".

Cheers,
Aart

[Gunhit]

We are in the same boat Nik, although I have to tag along to numerous competitions/shows throughout the year and help at various times mucking out etc (quite enjoy it really). However, all I get back is a few nods at a well painted horse. No moans and groans about the amount of time I spend gaming un-like the ex 

Adrian

[Fenton]

My wife lets me buy [snip]

She lets you buy... Hmm, there's a whiff of impending tragedy there, dear Fenton. I hope it's not too late for you to draw some boundaries and establish who does the letting and who does the buying.

I don't want to come over all macho on this issue, but when it comes to our wargaming rights we have lost quite some ground since the 19th century, fellows. Humanism, pacifism, feminism, PC and Tommy Hilfiger have all made deep inroads. I wonder if lead and tin are going to be declared environmental hazards next, just to spite (or tax) us.

On the other hand I just love a good sob story. "Wargamer relegated to 3' x 4' attic, denied food for weeks". "Enraged wife smashes unique Napoléon miniature". "Scots Regiment found in dustbin".

Cheers,
Aart

Hmmm maybe I worded that wrong ...II/b] buy whatever figures I like ( does macho pose but beer belly flops out )  But in the end we both get the stuff we need for our hobbies ( though she actually makes money out of hers)

[Leon]

Hmmm maybe I worded that wrong ...II/b] buy whatever figures I like ( does macho pose but beer belly flops out )  But in the end we both get the stuff we need for our hobbies ( though she actually makes money out of hers)

You need to start being a bit liberal with the truth I think, along the lines of "I got rid of a load of stuff at the Bring and Buy!", as you sneak past her with a fresh box of goodies...

[Pruneau]

I'm fairly OK, but everytime I buy stuff/postman brings a package she goes: "are you still buying new stuff?  you must have enough by now?" I tend to order once a week, be it figs, books about figs, equipment, boardgames, old RQ paraphernalia, so it's not too bad, but at times it arrives a few days in a row, and then I see her think ...

Still I have my own little hobby room, I get to go out once a week for gaming, I have one play night a week at home, and I get fed.  It could be much worse 

[Leon]

It could be much worse 

True!   

[Steve J]

I'm lucky with my wife too. I get to go out about twice a month for games, it used to be more but as the kids are growing up, time is taken up being a taxi driver etc. I can buy what I want for my Birthday, Fathers Day and Xmas with no problem. Bring and Buys can be a bit of a problem as I normally come back with stuff and have given up trying to smuggle stuff into the house. If I order bits and bobs I now get it delivered at work and slowly bring primed models bak to the house, saying "oh I've had that for years" etc.

[Leon]

If I order bits and bobs I now get it delivered at work and slowly bring primed models bak to the house, saying "oh I've had that for years" etc.

[Aart Brouwer]

I'm lucky with my wife too. If I order bits and bobs I now get it delivered at work and slowly bring primed models bak to the house, saying "oh I've had that for years" etc.

And the gentleman calls himself lucky... We all know where this thread is going, don't we? Sooner or later some poor, downtrodden wargamer is gong to think 'What the heck, she isn't reading in anyway' and spill the beans. All of them. Be prepared for the worst. Because there's always worse. Always..  

[Ben Waterhouse]

I am the head of the household.... and I give my wife all my money.

She does wool, I do lead - symbiotic relationship.

[DanJ]

We have trhee bank accounts, a central one which both our salaries are paid into and which pays for all the hosehold expenses etc then we each have a "pocket money account".  These get topped up from the joint account and what we use them for is our business.  I buy lead she buys... um... girly stuff.

I'm even allowed out every Tuesday night to play "toy soldiers", apparently it's better to loose me one night a week than every Saturday afternoon to the footy.

Mind you it did take her 2 years to admit to her parents that I went out and played with toy soldiers on a Tuesday, she used to say I went to a "hostory society"

[Pruneau]

For years my wife thought I played Roomquest every other Sunday.  I never found out what she thought we were actually doing.  Looking for rooms?  Still, since I GM for all the teens in the family, my status and that of RQ has gone up tremendously, since the kids 'learn English and Maths' through playing.  So now, when I'm in a tight spot, I say it's 'something new for RuneQuest'